Serenity of the last day
I would like to share some of my childhood trials when I was deprived and sadly bystander ... I was only five years old when our young sister died, and I was totally helpless and frightened. A friend of my parents had taken me in for a few days and he had reassured me saying she had reached for the stars ... little stardust. I was a teenager when our father died too. His loss was terrible and the fact that I couldn't witness his final moment.
Resilience is surprising ... I have had time and the opportunities to share with him a deep interest for the study of mythologies, universal spiritualities and to ask him for advice for my future...as if this appetite for philosophy, a spirit of openness towards the world and humanity had drawn my doctor's way without fear of the realities of life. Later at the age of maturity the death of my cherished mother-in-law has opened my eyes and made me realize the importance of the last moments of our beloved ones. In that time, we used to dress the deceased on their death bed at hospital.We were devastated. How to please her? How to make her beautiful to our last looks? We went to her house and it was sad and harsh to chose clothes. I am telling you all those details ... how strange it was to dress a deceased person on her deathbed with the clothes of her lifetime ... The sadness brought by this death was cured by the goal of creating a specific garment,a technical garment to help the medical staff, a garment for the deceased. I obtained a French patent for such a habit in 1998.
I needed beauty and kindness for the dead, and compassion for the families, I needed to share with love all the caring and respect due to the dead. Philocalia means Love of Beauty - that is love of Good and Well.
Philocalia for the deceased will be showing all the necessary respect for the dead. It will be following the deceased with dignity, creating something unique that can be accepted by all communities ... All human beings die and all human beings are the same, thus clothed in the same garments.Then we can hope to change the future and have an open and frank dialogue, a fraternal dialogue.
Let us not be afraid to feel kind-heartedness and compassion, we are all vulnerable. This is a sign not of weakness, but of spiritual strength, a call for a different way of thinking that involves changing the status quo.
Dying of old age in their own time is normal. But dying before their time in an accident or dying of illness or disease is a premature, unfair, unjust, insuperable death for the survivors. This universal question is delicate and touches us all, in our hearts, our families, our friends, deeply, one day.
Yet when these issues arise for us, or for one we love, we would like to depart from life in the peace of mind, in the acceptance to have lived this life which we received, shared and gave.
The serenity of the last day comesfrom the satisfaction of our last overview.
Everything is possible. And then, one day we can say " like a weaver, I unwound my life, the thread is cut " Hymn of Ézéchias, Isaïe 38.12
Dying with dignity could be also be given by the choice of a shroud made of plain white linen cloth, symbol of dignity and simplicity showing that we separate ourselves from our material goods,of our joy and our pains , leaving behind us unresolved conflicts because we can only move away ... from Life ... when it is time to pass on. Embrace your own death.
And so on our deathbed we are like a newborn child, dressed in soft and white linen, although for a child it is the promise of a bright pure world.
It is my distinct belief that people will buy this shroud in advance, to relieve those who will have to take care of them on the last day, a symbolic, universal and ethical garment, easy to use, environment-friendly, in natural fibers.
There will be a folded linen sheet ready to use in the closet as there was one in our great grandmothers'closet. As the ritual, white, vermilion or purple clothes in many more cultures.
As the prominent turban we can see in Persian miniature was wound around the head or around the hat, had to " make twice the size of the person, be wider than shoulders " because it was used as a shroud to be buried straight in the ground.
Boldness is needed to get things done, but I believe in the open-mindedness of our time to achieve change.
Inspired by Pablo Picasso, in some of his paintings, the painter Fernando Botero wrote this admirable sentence of humor and sincerity:
" Take something that others have already made and make it in a different way: here is the real originality "
Dr Claude Marie Paoli, in March, 2018
For me…. linen only!
Life is a gift if we take care of it. Even it is full of trials, we move forwards.Throughout our terrestrial path, we improve serenity. Then, inexorably , the moment for crossings into the Afterlife;
So, for us who have always wished a worthy and beautiful life, it’s time to highlight this serenity and “have a perfect end”. Being wrapped in a shroud and leave the outfits of livings, no need shoes because we go and fly to the Kingdom. Yes !
Being wrapped in a shroud for not pretend and allow our relatives to begin on mourn. Yes!
For this last moment, choosing a shroud is a way to restore simplicity, truth and beauty of originals burials… and I, I want linen only ! (in french, linceul: shroud ... du lin seul!)
Remark-Thought-Testimony from Josyane Nuber-Chassignet,
F. Le Thoronet, Var, June the 24th 2018